Here’s some flowers to show that you are mine.

One month into the New Year and thankfully, my friends have almost forgotten about the resolutions I loudly proclaimed, much to their approving applause. Jeepers, was the applause what I was really aiming for? There was some juice for a short while, lots of accolades and congratulations and offerings of support. Felt good…on the outside.

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Shopping for ‘who you are not.’

I have posed the following question before but this is a different context and it is interesting to look from this perspective. So…
What kind of gift would you get for someone if you were to try to match the proposed gift with ‘who they are’?
Do we immediately relate to the ‘have’ part of the self, like…what is his career, what is her status in the community, what are his qualifications and what things is she good at? Wouldn’t that be an accurate assessment of ‘who are you?’

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Be a Writer? But what if…

Considering the art of being an author, it has been said (and I believe it, have even feel it when being ‘in the zone’) that the words must come from the soul.  Of course the soul never went to grammar school or took writing classes, and for sure it is not any kind of ‘Little Miss Tidy. ”It’ (since it may not have a gender, for now the soul is an ‘it’) only wants to express ‘itself’ in some way – or in a lot of ways. I like that. It means there is no definite test to determine when the soul is or isn’t expressing. We will feel it in our own way.

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Second-best or authentic? Choose.

Am I doing what I am second-best at? Okay, the quick answer is that what I am doing is giving me a nice, secure life, and I am good at it, even like it a bit. Is there any room for a question like, ‘Why not do what I really love, instead?’

‘What I am good at’ is a big deal in today’s culture. It is used as the measuring stick for our careers. Get good at something and then try to find a job in that market. Is that because our lives are evaluated on what the rewards are, instead of in what we would want to spend our lives doing…perhaps something we love to do, even though the financial return may be less?

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